Sex in marriage is not only for child bearing. It is a provision for relationship…it does not stop with child bearing, it does not cease with growth. While the frequency may reduce with old age, it does not really stop “till death do us part.” It may take different forms as couples grow and advance in years; but it remains a permanent means of communion between a man and his wife. Family planning should be used when necessary so as not to break the sexual communion just for the fear of unwanted pregnancy. It should be mutually discussed. Be considerate concerning each other’s needs in your choice of family planning [FP] method. Seek counsel of the relevant resource person in this area if need be.
Le me affirm at this point that your marriage is much more than the sexual intercourse. Without it your marriage is as valid and can fulfill the purpose of God. Marriage is a total and complete in God’s plan, even if there is a deformity in a partner that makes the sexual intercourse difficult or impossible. Accident that may cause a permanent, irreparable damage on the genitals of a partner need not jeopardize their matrimony. You marry a person, not his sexual organ. Such couples need to see the purpose of God in their marriage over and above the enjoyment of sex. Marriage actually can take place and it is as honorable, even when the other partner is sexually unresponsive.
However, this needs to be openly discussed with each other before getting into marital commitment [if any of the partners is aware of such deformity.] If it occurs only after you are joined together in marriage, there is no need looking back. Understand with each other and explore the ways in which your relationship can bring satisfaction despite that. In this case, tactical romance may be useful at least to create a kind of satisfaction for the other partner.
These difficulties are not sufficient reasons for breaking the matrimony. Sex outside that matrimony is still sin [Heb.13:4]. Every sexual expression outside your marriage is a sin and it robs you of a deep walk with God. Barrenness and miscarriages are not tenable reasons for divorce either. Fellowship, companionship, and laboring together to fulfill God’s vision for your lives are still the more authentic goals of marriage.
Other questions of the posture, the process of making love itself will not be dealt with here. The rule is whatever is convenient and comfortable for both of you. Consideration and love for each other is the matter here. No particular style is the sacred one. The relationship is much more the focus than the act itself. Pregnancy does not really prevent sex. It is rather the discomfort the wife undergoes that is consideration. Once the pregnancy gets stable, sex is not a problem.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Sunday, May 31, 2009
SEXUAL INTIMACY
Some families are highly conservative on sexual issues; it is treated with utmost modesty and never discussed or mentioned. Some adults who came from such disciplined background sometimes encounters sex –related problems in marriage. This hang up should be discarded in marriage as they may hurt the marriage. Withholding sex from your partner is unbiblical, against God’s design, and plan for sex in marriage. Some grew up with personal discipline and conviction, they grew up chaste and sexually virtuous and this is carried over into their marriage. Even though this is laudable, they should prayerfully loosen- up. Sexual relationship between husband and wife is holy and proper.
Sex is one thing you can share only with each other. Do not expose your husband to unnecessary temptation by withholding it from him. Extra marital sex is sinful; remember your husband is a human being with blood running in his veins. If you do, you are exposing him to sin and may lead him to hell if he does, you will be held accountable to God.
Do not use sex as a weapon against him either no matter how upset you are with him, withholding your body will not solve the problem, it may drive him further away from you and aggravate the problem [1Cor.7:4-5]. The marriage bed is not a place to show propriety either, trying to show him that you are not promiscuous. Having sex with your husband is not promiscuous, be free and be yourself.
Your body belongs to him and his body belongs to you make conscious effort not to wear yourself out during the day, be mentally and physically prepared for your husband. In some cases, the husband sexually neglects the wife; his lack of interest may be due to many reasons, which could be physical, mental, or emotional. If there is no physical problem hindering him, he may be having deep feelings of failure, disappointments, depression, or hopelessness that needs to be addressed. Prayer can help reveal what the problem is and how to solve it. Do not let negative emotions like resentments, bitterness, self pity and unforgiveness build up in you, keep your self healthy and attractive.
Get special lingerie that you know he will like and get yourself spruced up. Surprise him with a new attitude. Sometimes sexual problems in marriage happen because of sexual experiences before the marriage or in the past. Pray to be set free of those memories no matter what occurred in either of your past.
Sex is one thing you can share only with each other. Do not expose your husband to unnecessary temptation by withholding it from him. Extra marital sex is sinful; remember your husband is a human being with blood running in his veins. If you do, you are exposing him to sin and may lead him to hell if he does, you will be held accountable to God.
Do not use sex as a weapon against him either no matter how upset you are with him, withholding your body will not solve the problem, it may drive him further away from you and aggravate the problem [1Cor.7:4-5]. The marriage bed is not a place to show propriety either, trying to show him that you are not promiscuous. Having sex with your husband is not promiscuous, be free and be yourself.
Your body belongs to him and his body belongs to you make conscious effort not to wear yourself out during the day, be mentally and physically prepared for your husband. In some cases, the husband sexually neglects the wife; his lack of interest may be due to many reasons, which could be physical, mental, or emotional. If there is no physical problem hindering him, he may be having deep feelings of failure, disappointments, depression, or hopelessness that needs to be addressed. Prayer can help reveal what the problem is and how to solve it. Do not let negative emotions like resentments, bitterness, self pity and unforgiveness build up in you, keep your self healthy and attractive.
Get special lingerie that you know he will like and get yourself spruced up. Surprise him with a new attitude. Sometimes sexual problems in marriage happen because of sexual experiences before the marriage or in the past. Pray to be set free of those memories no matter what occurred in either of your past.
Friday, May 15, 2009
DIVORCE IS EVIL
Marriage is a permanent and intimate bond between a man and his wife as long as they both alive.Gen.2v23-25; Matt.19v5-6; Rom.7v2.
As long as both of you are alive. No matter the m to understand this and pray for God’s intervention. Settle down with the bone of your bones. Ask God to help you develop an intimacy with each other so that God’s purpose may be achieved.As soon as a man and woman get married, God warns that no man should put them asunder. It is a permanent relationship, Are you married? Your partner is the bone of your bones and the flesh of your flesh. God deliberately made you incomplete so that your partner can fit into that loophole in your life to make whole and wholesome in order for the purpose of God to be achieved in your life. Marriage is a permanent relationship
Marriage is ordained to be separated only by death. It is only then that the partner is alive free to re-marry . Rom.7v2-3;Mal.2v16.
God emphatically says He hate putting away and for you to engage in an act hated by God is to set yourself against God. Marriage is a bond between a man and his wife as long as they live. It is never in the perfect will of God that they separate for whatever reason. God ordained that they should be an inseparable whole as long as they live. But if one partner dies, then the one that is alive is free from that bond. He or she is free to re-marry . Again we see from the scriptures God does not allow a man or a woman who has separated from his or her partner for any other reason apart from death to re-marry. If a woman does that while her husband is still lives, she is, and she shall be called an adulteress. And if a man marries another woman while his wife is still lives, he is an adulterer.
Marriage is ordained by God to be honored and regarded by all. Marriage is honorable is in all.Heb.13v4[NIV,KJV].
God commanded it to be so. He does not deal kindly with anyone that tries to dishonor it whether you are an outsider or a partner in that marriage. As a married person you should honor your marriage and you must not, in any way, dishonor another person’s marriage either. As soon as you are you are married, God honors that relationship. It makes no difference whether you where an unbeliever when you got married or not, whether you had a traditional wedding or a church wedding, you are to regard that marriage in honor. But whoremongers and adulterers God shall judge. The fact that you got married as an unbeliever is not a guarantee that you can misbehave or separate from your partner and re-marry now that you are born again. If you are having problems in the marriage, it is better to take it to the Lord. The maker, and the manufacturer of marriage, He will make it right and turn your situation around.As children of God, marriage with unbelievers is forbidden. Marriage with an unbeliever is an unequal yoking. A believer is an unequal to an unbeliever. They are not equal at all. And for them to be yoked together in marriage, they are only going to look for trouble. Light and darkness are not equal. Both are mutually exclusive. A believer is a son; an unbeliever is a dog.’Matt.15v22-26]. Imagine a marriage between the two, in the first place they are of different species and nature. Their language and perception are not the same. There will always be quarrel and disagreements between them. The foundation for a sound, healthy and God glorifying relationship in the home is a thorough understanding implication of “the two shall become one flesh” as the scriptural definition of marriage .
As long as both of you are alive. No matter the m to understand this and pray for God’s intervention. Settle down with the bone of your bones. Ask God to help you develop an intimacy with each other so that God’s purpose may be achieved.As soon as a man and woman get married, God warns that no man should put them asunder. It is a permanent relationship, Are you married? Your partner is the bone of your bones and the flesh of your flesh. God deliberately made you incomplete so that your partner can fit into that loophole in your life to make whole and wholesome in order for the purpose of God to be achieved in your life. Marriage is a permanent relationship
Marriage is ordained to be separated only by death. It is only then that the partner is alive free to re-marry . Rom.7v2-3;Mal.2v16.
God emphatically says He hate putting away and for you to engage in an act hated by God is to set yourself against God. Marriage is a bond between a man and his wife as long as they live. It is never in the perfect will of God that they separate for whatever reason. God ordained that they should be an inseparable whole as long as they live. But if one partner dies, then the one that is alive is free from that bond. He or she is free to re-marry . Again we see from the scriptures God does not allow a man or a woman who has separated from his or her partner for any other reason apart from death to re-marry. If a woman does that while her husband is still lives, she is, and she shall be called an adulteress. And if a man marries another woman while his wife is still lives, he is an adulterer.
Marriage is ordained by God to be honored and regarded by all. Marriage is honorable is in all.Heb.13v4[NIV,KJV].
God commanded it to be so. He does not deal kindly with anyone that tries to dishonor it whether you are an outsider or a partner in that marriage. As a married person you should honor your marriage and you must not, in any way, dishonor another person’s marriage either. As soon as you are you are married, God honors that relationship. It makes no difference whether you where an unbeliever when you got married or not, whether you had a traditional wedding or a church wedding, you are to regard that marriage in honor. But whoremongers and adulterers God shall judge. The fact that you got married as an unbeliever is not a guarantee that you can misbehave or separate from your partner and re-marry now that you are born again. If you are having problems in the marriage, it is better to take it to the Lord. The maker, and the manufacturer of marriage, He will make it right and turn your situation around.As children of God, marriage with unbelievers is forbidden. Marriage with an unbeliever is an unequal yoking. A believer is an unequal to an unbeliever. They are not equal at all. And for them to be yoked together in marriage, they are only going to look for trouble. Light and darkness are not equal. Both are mutually exclusive. A believer is a son; an unbeliever is a dog.’Matt.15v22-26]. Imagine a marriage between the two, in the first place they are of different species and nature. Their language and perception are not the same. There will always be quarrel and disagreements between them. The foundation for a sound, healthy and God glorifying relationship in the home is a thorough understanding implication of “the two shall become one flesh” as the scriptural definition of marriage .
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE
When the purpose of a thing is known then it will be appreciated. When you know the purpose of marriage you will begin to appreciate marriage.[Eccl.1v1-3]Whatever God has purpose is for gain.
1. It is to provide suitable, adequate and perfect help to meet the need of the man. A help meet is somebody who will stand to help him accomplish is assignment on earth.[Gen.2v18-21,Eccl.4v9-12]the purpose is that God what life better for the man.
2. It is for spiritual reinforcement [josh.23v10, Deut.32v30] when you get married the force against the enemy will strong and effective [Prov.27v17]reinforcement means to give added strength. spiritual strength is to add God strength.[matt.18v19]
3. It is for companionship and fellowship.[Gen.2v18]Husband and wife are meant to be friends, lovers and companions.
4. It is for unity ie one mind ,purpose[matt.19v5]where there is no unity of purpose thing will not workout well.[Gen.2v24,Mk.10v7,Amos.3v3,Ps.133v3]
5. It is for pro-creation [childbearing]it is the only heavenly ordained way of producing or having children.[Gen.1v28,1Tim.5v14]DON’T ALLOW YOUR HOME TO BREAK SO YOU WOULDN’T BREAK YOUR CHILDREN.
6. It is to avoid fornication or immorality [1Cor.7v2, 1Cor.v9] Sex is not a sin. It is sin when done outside marriage. it is permitted only in marriage. Money is not evil but the love for money.
If you are married enjoy sex. Some men can not satisfy their wife sexually while because they are not taught how to approach their spouse.
1. It is to provide suitable, adequate and perfect help to meet the need of the man. A help meet is somebody who will stand to help him accomplish is assignment on earth.[Gen.2v18-21,Eccl.4v9-12]the purpose is that God what life better for the man.
2. It is for spiritual reinforcement [josh.23v10, Deut.32v30] when you get married the force against the enemy will strong and effective [Prov.27v17]reinforcement means to give added strength. spiritual strength is to add God strength.[matt.18v19]
3. It is for companionship and fellowship.[Gen.2v18]Husband and wife are meant to be friends, lovers and companions.
4. It is for unity ie one mind ,purpose[matt.19v5]where there is no unity of purpose thing will not workout well.[Gen.2v24,Mk.10v7,Amos.3v3,Ps.133v3]
5. It is for pro-creation [childbearing]it is the only heavenly ordained way of producing or having children.[Gen.1v28,1Tim.5v14]DON’T ALLOW YOUR HOME TO BREAK SO YOU WOULDN’T BREAK YOUR CHILDREN.
6. It is to avoid fornication or immorality [1Cor.7v2, 1Cor.v9] Sex is not a sin. It is sin when done outside marriage. it is permitted only in marriage. Money is not evil but the love for money.
If you are married enjoy sex. Some men can not satisfy their wife sexually while because they are not taught how to approach their spouse.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
I HATE DIVORCE: THE MOST IDEAL MARRAIGE
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